Do I go broke because of my wedding? Who pays for what?

The typical Naija wedding has its hassles; Planning, coordinating and most of all the funding. It’s traditionally believed that the woman’s family should handle most of the activities of the wedding day since they are the ones who are hosting the other family. It’s not wise to bear all the costs of the wedding because as we know, it’s the coming together of two families so both families have to work out what they will handle financially so as to make the wedding go on without hassles. Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn.  The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom’s family.  Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set.  Will the ceremony be Introduction, Traditional and White wedding or is it going to be Nikkai   afterwards? You will also need to draw up a list for who pays for what?

Please note that there are NO HARD OR FAST RULES as to “Who Pays for What”, but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.

Wedding Gown, Traditional attire Headpiece & Accessories The Bride’s Family
Wedding Ring for Bride The Groom
Wedding Ring for Groom  The Bride
Wedding Gift for Groom The Bride
Wedding Gift for Bride The Groom
Bridesmaid Gifts The Bride
Groomsmen Gifts The Groom
Bride’s Bouquet The Groom
Bridesmaid Bouquets The Bride’s Family


Groom’s Suit/ Traditional attire The Groom
Groomsmen Suit/ Traditional attire The Groom’s men
Note: Both families have to agree on the colours  


Rented Items for Wedding The Bride’s Family
Invitations/Announcements The Bride’s Family
Wedding Programs Both Families
Napkins/Printed Items The Bride’s Family
Marriage Dowry The Groom’s Family
Reception Hall Fee The Bride’s Family
Catered Reception/Professional Services The Bride’s Family and Groom’s Family
Traditional wedding coordinator The Bride’s Family
Video/Photography The Bride’s Family
Orchestra/Band/DJ The Bride’s Family
Wedding Cake The Bride’s Family
Wedding Gifts to Guest Both Families
Bachelor Party Best Man/Groom’s Attendants
Bridesmaid’s Gowns Bridesmaid’s
Maid of Honour Gown Maid of Honour
Car Service The Groom
Honeymoon Arrangements The Groom and The Best Man
Accommodations for out-of town Guests The Groom and Both Families
Gifts for the Couple Guest, Attendants and Family

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