The Dangers of a Pleasant Mien

For a lot of people, interaction and communication involves “listening” to verbal communication, rather than non verbal. However, a lot of people also do not realize many practice “active listening” not through verbal interaction, but by non verbal cues – they prioritize “reading you” over “listening” to you.

Which method is better, you ask? That depends on your own point of view. Body language can carry just as much, or much more equal weight than spoken words.  It is important to know what context you are dealing with, for example, if you are being “read” as opposed to being “heard”. Or let’s say you are being “heard” through  being “read”. Sometimes we overestimate the importance of spoken words especially as  it relates to our peculiar condition or situation. Therein lies the danger.

When you are “read”, the “reader” is basing their judgement of you on your body vibes. A pleasant mien   will not necessarily endear you to an audience when you are  in the dock. In non verbal communication, a pleasant mien is considered a minus, not a plus, and contributes a lot to negative ratings floating around. Key word here is dock, when you are in the dock, your expression says it all. You are not the lawyer, but the accused.



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