Dear Willie D:
I can’t believe I messed around and had a baby by a man who already had three baby mamas — he never told me about the third one.
I found that bit of information out when we were at our 10-year-old son’s school watching him play in a basketball game.
As my husband was coaching the team, out of nowhere a server walked up to him with child-support and custody papers. I was so embarrassed.
When we got home later that night, he swore to me that although he knew about the baby, he didn’t believe it was his so he didn’t want to have that unnecessary discussion with me. He told me that his first two baby mamas were crazy and they wouldn’t let him see his kids. Now he’s saying the mystery baby mama is also crazy.
I’m starting to think everything he’s ever told me about his past relationships was a lie. He doesn’t spend time with any of his kids other than the one he has with me.
I’m having serious doubts about his character as a person and father. His behavior reminds me of a dog who sniffs the rear of every female he sees. What kind of man just goes around sleeping with and impregnating woman after woman? Just thinking about this makes me sick to my stomach.
To his credit, he has been a good provider for my son and me, but I feel bad for the other women involved, and even worse for the children. Am I right to care or should I just worry about my own set of circumstances?