My husband and I have been together for 2 years. We got married one year after being together.
My husband and I both have children from previous relationships and none together. My child is 13 and his child is 6 years old. My husband wasn’t the first guy I’d been with that had a child, so I was very accepting of his child in the beginning.
Over the course of time, my feelings toward the child have changed and I think it has a lot to do with the hate I have for the child’s mother. In the beginning, he warned me that his baby mother was very childish and has also played games with him regarding the child when she would find out he was in a relationship. I told him, if it would make her more comfortable, I was willing to meet her and introduce myself just so she can see and get a feel of who her child was around. He made mention of that and she declined.
She’s stalked my social network pages and saw pictures of me and the child together and expressed her dislike to my husband about the pictures. The last straw for me was when she asked my husband to stop bringing me along when he comes to pick up the little boy. That pissed me off and made absolutely no sense to me since the child would be in my company at my home. My husband denied her request and continued bringing me along instead of allowing an outsider to dictate how we operate.
When the child comes with us on the weekends, the child informed us that he’s not allowed to refer to me as his dad’s wife in the presence of his mother. Along with the issues with the child’s mother, the child has begun to work my nerves too. He’s very hyperactive and at times can be VERY annoying. Although I have a child, my child was never a hyperactive child at that age so I’ve never had to deal with constantly telling a child to sit down, or to stop doing this or stop doing that.
Another example of his annoying ways is the constant need to interrupt a conversation me and my husband may be engaged in. He’ll constantly call his dad’s name and when he finally gets a response he’ll say he forgot what he wanted. Between the childish baby mama and annoying kid, I now have a strong dislike for this child. My husband is not aware of my dislike.
I love my husband past death and I’ve prayed time and time again for the dislike for this child to go away. I’m not sure if I can go a lifetime being around a child that I genuinely dislike. I also don’t believe in my heart that the child belongs to my husband, as the child does not look like either parent, or either set of grandparents. I’ve made mention of a paternity test to my husband and he stated that he had one done at the time the child was born. I asked my husband if I could see the paperwork and he stated he no longer had it, which places doubt that a paternity test was ever done. I don’t want to leave my husband, but I don’t know how much longer I can take this. – Annoyed and Confused